Monday, September 24, 2012

Over YOUR threshold: Leaving loved-ones

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Today's guest post comes from Jennifer of Celebrating Life with the Parkers.  She stepped up to contribute her feelings about why her threshold is where it is and the challenges that has brought for her and her family.  I've only known Jennifer a few years, but I just love her and think she's beautiful inside and out.  Her husband Brett and I go way back, having gone to the same church together our whole lives and we got married the same year.

When it comes to change there are two types of people, those that love it, and those that loathe it. And unfortunately, I fall in the second category. So when my husband was offered a promotion to move our family of 2 (with 1 on the way) from NC to TX, I had to think twice. We would be leaving so much behind with the promise of gaining so much.

I attribute my resistance to change from the lack of moving as a child. The home I was brought home to from the hospital was the same home I waved goodbye to my parents as I drove away to college. I was not upset when I left for college because I was so young and naive to even consider the stuff I would be giving up leaving home. Not the same could be said about when I accepted my first "real" job and it required me to leave my college town and move to "a big city".  I remember having to pull the UHAUL over because I was crying so hard I could not see straight. That's when I first noticed my fear of change. But somehow I convinced myself to get back on the road and just drive.

I felt a lot of the same emotions when my newlywed husband and I considered moving 1,100 miles away from anyone we knew. Except being older, this time a whole new surge of emotions surfaced. Ones I'd never considered before. How will we meet people? (Because lets be honest, the older you get, the harder it is to make friends) How often will we be able to see our family? Not to mention, because I was 6 months pregnant, we had a whole new set of challenges. Finding a doctor, hospital, pediatrician, etc. Will we be able to raise this baby without the support system so many young families have? Will we be ok with no one visiting us when our 1st baby is born? But here we are, almost 2 years later, with a 17 month old, and another one on the way and we are making it.

I would be lying if I said we left NC and never looked back. There are days that we wish we were back "home". Especially when you miss a close friend's wedding or the birth of new nieces or nephews. We've become very familiar with Skype and learn to stagger our visits back east so we don't get too homesick. But I find that when I'm gone from TX for more than a weekend I'm ready to come back to what has become our new "home".

Our decision to move was not an easy one. And I think the older we get, the harder the decisions become. We have a lot more to lose if we make the wrong decision, especially when children are involved.  But with great risk comes great reward. And despite very few "down times" moving away has been a positive experience for us. Because at the end of the day its not WHERE you come home but WHO you come home to.

Jennifer and her husband, Brett, have been married for three years and currently live in Houston, Texas. They have an 18 month old son, Lucas, and a baby girl on the way.  Their blog follows their lives as newlyweds, new parents and other daily adventures that come with being away from family and friends. You can read more about them on their blog at Celebrating Life With the Parkers.

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